Getting back on track
There are an abundance of articles and blogs about the importance of hiring an attorney, doing your research and making sure you have the right person in your corner when filing for a divorce. There is also plenty of information about the different types of divorce: mediations, negotiation, litigation, and collaborative. What should you do after your divorce? This is the question we often ask ourselves. There are many things you can do to make your life a little more “normal” and get you back on track after this stressful situation. Likely, a lot of things in your life have changed and while some can be hard to deal with, and others can be positive.
Finding a new normal
If you are a visual person, consider a photo shoot with a good photographer. Instead of looking at empty walls where the wedding photos used to hang, get some nice photos of you and the kids, or of just you. What about a new wall color or a new set of “buy now pay later” furniture (there are sales all of the time) to brighten the house up a bit.
What are your hobbies? Take time to find YOU. Did you like to dance? Scrapbook? Fish? What do you enjoy that you stopped doing during the legal case? Get back to it!
Take care of your personal things. Did you change all of your passwords? Did you change your beneficiaries at your bank, on your life insurance, on your retirement plans? Now is the time for those changes.
Do you need therapy? This is common, and can assist you with getting back on track, finding yourself, and maybe being a better parent. You may need co-parenting classes because parenting the same kids from separate homes is not the same, and is very challenging. Schedules have to be compared and compromises must be made to be sure your children remain happy and do not become pawns in your life. You are divorced, but there is life after divorce… be sure to live it. “While you’re going through your worst, we are at our best.”